How to Support a Loved One with an Eating Disorder (Without Saying the Wrong Thing)
Eating disorders affect 28.8 million Americans at some point in their lives. They are complex mental health conditions with biological, psychological, and environmental roots. Telling someone to “just eat” or “stop worrying” won’t fix it—support and professional care will.
Learn to recognize the signs of an eating disorder, start a supportive conversation, and encourage your loved one to seek help.
Recognizing the Signs
Eating disorders aren’t always obvious. Some common warning signs include:
Drastic changes in eating habits (skipping meals, avoiding entire food groups, binge eating).
Preoccupation with food, calories, or body weight.
Withdrawal from social activities (especially those involving food).
Mood changes, increased anxiety, or depression.
Excessive exercise, even when injured or exhausted.
Physical symptoms (hair thinning, digestive issues, constantly feeling cold)
How to Approach the Conversation
Talking about eating disorders can feel tricky, but here’s how to do it with care:
Pick the right moment – Choose a private, calm setting.
Use “I” statements – Express concern without placing blame.
Example: “I’ve noticed you’ve been skipping meals lately, and I’m really worried about you.”
Avoid focusing on appearance or weight – Comments about weight (even positive ones) can be harmful.
Be patient – They may not be ready to talk right away, and that’s okay.
Encouraging Professional Help
Eating disorders require specialized treatment. You can help by:
Researching therapists or treatment programs.
Offering to go with them to their first appointment.
Reminding them that seeking help is a sign of strength.
At Cognition Co., we offer compassionate, evidence-based care for those struggling with eating disorders. If your loved one needs support, we’re here to help.
